Ever wondered about those not-so-pleasant incidents in our life? Sometimes, they are ignorable, don’t affect us at all; sometimes, they are trivial and we get over them quickly. But what about the ones which leave us debilitated, lost and devastated. Has this ever happened to you where it took just one incident to tear your world apart and it felt like this is the end of the world for you? Relax..because you will be able to get through it. Trust me..
It has happened to me. Twice. Good thing about the first one? I wasn’t mature enough to probably even understand what I had lost though I felt miserable and cried my heart out, kept crying all the time. I could do that since I was just twelve years old. I lost My Dad. I miss him, miss him a lot. The greatest part is even till today when there’s any discussion about him, everyone has great things to say about him. And well, as I was growing up I saw him and I have learned most from my Dad. He was a very vibrant, positive, and a cheerful soul. He was always willing to help people. Always willing to guide, always willing to understand and lend an ear to anyone at all. Apart from being a homeopathic doctor and working in a bank, he had an amazing knack for writing. I got to know about that later when I saw his piece of writings. And also, he was into theatre, used to perform on stages. I think that’s’ where I get my poetic and dramatics skills too 😉
Even though I lost him at an early age, I always have felt His presence in my life till date. Even for a single moment, I never felt that He’s not watching me or not with me. Even though he wasn’t physically present with me but he was there always. I used to always get motivated by it and wanted to be like him – a good human being, in life. He taught me to be good natured, no matter what. He taught me about those basic little things in life which are so important for one’s well being. I want to share, out of all those innumerable ones, the 5 basic things which he taught me,which I realize now that have stuck with me. Here they are, even though you all might have heard some of them a thousand times.
1. Remember, we all have the same needs: No matter what, we are all humans. We all seek for Love, kindness, peace, harmony and happiness within. Some people show it, most of them don’t. But it’s the ultimate truth that we all need love and kindness. Spread out that Love and kindness around. Remember the other one needs it as much as we do. Try it. Give it away to get it back. Even if you don’t get it back, it will make you feel good to see a smile on someone’s face and knowing that you are the reason for it. That’s what motivates me the most.
2. Bad experiences are necessary: Every bad experience has a positive outcome at the end of it. We might realize it sooner or later. Every bad experience is God’s way of making us stronger and letting us know that Life Moves On. It’s not the problems that should worry us, but our reactions to those problems. Do what’s in your hands; show the world that you’re strong. If you fall, get up again more firmly and start walking. That’s where your true strength of character comes out. And trust me all becomes well at the end.
3. Believe in the ‘Good’: Howsoever hard and tough this life seems at times, trust me, it’s beautiful. There’s a lot of goodness in this world. Don’t ever let any person/ incident make you lose trust in the good. “Good” ~ which I define as good things, good people, good life, good God. Give your best shot at all the times to everyone and every task. That’s all that’s expected of you.
4. Respect your self: Remember in all this, it’s very important to respect your own self and maintain dignity. Respect is earned, and how do you earn it? By being good, by doing good. By not harming anyone intentionally. By spreading love, knowledge and good deeds around. By hard work. By dedication. By holding your head high up at the end of the day when you look yourself in the mirror, that’s’ important. Stick to your values and morals, and at the same time, be flexible to changes which are meant for your good and the others around. And have the wisdom to understand about them.
5. Don’t forget to do the things that make you happy: Little things like dancing, listening to music, working out, reading, playing, trekking, meeting friends, partying, sitting alone. Whatever is it that make you happy, do it!! No second thoughts about that.
These are the 5 things for my first blog. Thank you for reading them through. Hope they made you smile and feel better? Please share your thoughts and experiences too, would love to hear them out 🙂